To The Graduate


This spring many of our love ones will be graduating.  Graduation cards are great but not kept.  I wanted to give a young cousin of mine something greater than a card, wisdom from my life’s experiences. Along with money of course.  This is what I wrote.

My Dear Loved One;

I hope you don’t mind that I didn’t spend $4.50 on a card.  Instead I decided to take some time and share some important observations I have made in my life time.

Always be grateful.  Never forget good things come to those who are grateful.  Often the greatest blessing come in disguise.  No matter how difficult the situation may be remember to bless it with love and gratitude.  Blessings will come back on you as well as curses.  So watch your words.

Watch what you say.  Words can be destructive as well as constructive.  Jesus has a lot to say about our words. Mathew 12:36  For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.   The hateful and destructive words can never be taken back.  I have watched too many relationships be destroyed because of hateful words.  Even if the relationship isn’t destroyed mistrust will always be there.  Biting your tongue at the moment might be hard but living with the consequences of not is harder.  Value the relationships you have and bless not curse.

Remember people will never remember the things you said or the things that you did, just the way you made them feel.  It doesn’t matter if you meet them for just a moment make sure you value all people at all times.  It’s a small, small world.  You will meet many people in your future that you briefly encountered in your past.  Make sure even in the worst circumstance that you treat everyone with respect and grace.   It will never be forgotten.

What is in your heart?  Be careful with your thoughts.  For some unexplainable reason we will always manifest our thoughts.  Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth that which is evil; for the abundance of the heart the mouth speak

Think good and positive thoughts at all times you will reap the rewards.

We will never have the passion to hate unless we had the passion to love.  You probably know by now what a fine line there is between love and hate.  In your life time you may cross that line over and over again with many people.

We are all fallible so forgive.  Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’ll forget.  Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to hang out with the person.  These are all by products of  forgiveness.   Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.  Forgiveness will free you from the prison of pain you will be in.  This will be one of the most difficult thing you have to master in your life.  Choosing to forgive is the secret to forgiveness.  Again choosing to forgive will be one of the hardest yet most rewarding experience in your life.  It’s worth it. Remember to forgive yourself as well.

This too shall pass.  No matter how hard, no matter how scary, no matter how life altering things may be, it will pass.  We are extremely adaptable creatures.  You will surprise yourself over and over again at how you can adapt.  Always be flexible or you will set yourself up for failure.  Having to change isn’t a bad thing.  It is God’s way of directing our path.  Permit  him to create you; and every time you look in the heavens or at a sunset you will know that the same creator is still creating you.  The truth is you are pure magnificence.

Never say never.  When I was young I said never a lot.  Wow! What life has taught me.  Now I say, by the grace of God.  Albert Einstein said, “The problem with a closed mind is… it never lets anything in or lets anything out.  Keep your mind open and never forget to learn something every day.  You will always be entertain by learning and never a dull person to be with.

Be yourself and allow others to be themselves.  We all have our part to play in this world.  Surround yourself with different interesting people.   Don’t be afraid if they are different than you.   They will add richness to your life.

Where ever you go bring your morals.  Make high morals your standard to live by,  they will never let you down and you will never have to hang your head in shame.   Never forget that morals make a person who they are.  It is easy to spot a wolf hiding in sheep clothing by watching his morals.  You will save yourself a lot of pain by paying attention to a persons deeds.  Don’t be distracted by a persons words or affiliations.   They are too easy to hind behind.  You will save yourself from a lot of pain and grief if  you choose friends by their morals and most importantly your spouse.

Most of all God is every where.  You will see his face in a newborn baby.  When your parents die he’ll be holding your hand.   When your sick or in prison you will never be alone.  Never expect people to take the place of God.  You will sorrowfully disappointed every time.

Learn to listen to his voice.  You will find him speaking to you in the most unusual way.  You may hear him speak to you through child, a TV show,  a road sign.  If you ask Him anything He will answer you.  Make sure you are listening. Learn to recognize the still small voice inside of you and listen to it.  It will continually amaze you and you will always regret when you don’t!

Your relationship with God will be the greatest relationship you will ever have.  Get to know him and make him your best friend.  Like any good friend learn about him.  Know what his likes and dislikes are and you will understand his ways.   He will always be there for you. No matter what you do he will  always love you.  He will encourage you when you are down and will hasten you when you have done something wrong.  His love is never failing and he is always forgiving.  He is a good friend. It’s okay to get mad at him he’ll be patient with you, he knows you’ll come around.   Proverbs 18:24 (revised) He is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Instead of a graduation card this year write a letter and share your wisdom with your loved one.

I hope you have enjoyed this little bit of wisdom I have shared. Please feel free to share the bit of wisdom you have learned in your life.



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